Can you feel the love in the air?
It's undeniably starting to look like spring, and love is in the air... or is it?
Hey there,
I often wonder if I was born in the right country, with its predictable but not always nice continental climate, long cold winters and at times unbearably hot, dry summers - and all this… way too far away from the sea or any bigger body of water. My favourite season is summer without a second thought, but I have to admit that spring is starting to grow on me - the colours, the smells, the crisp early morning air, the promise of a new beginning. It really is something to fall for.
This is that time of year when people climb out from their winter hibernation, where we are finally allowed to wear lighter clothes, when with all this blooming of nature our hormones also come out to play. It’s that time of year when it feels so much like being in love, when we feel like falling in love.
I have been thinking a lot about love and gathered a few thoughts on it.
Falling in love for the right things
Have you ever fallen in love just for the sake of being in love? Have you ever chased the illusion of love with someone totally unworthy? Have you ever been in love with love itself?
Falling in love with love is quite common - especially in high school, but it can happen later in life too. Even worse, when we are not falling in love with love, but we fall in love with other concepts that we attach to another person.
Chemistry is great, compatibility and chemistry are even better, but regardless of the beautiful April weather, there are things that you should avoid falling in love with. (Read the full article by clicking the link above.)
Self-love and self-care
These past months, partly because I was forced into social isolation together with the rest of the world, I practised self-care and self-love a lot more effectively than before. Maybe it was because I simply couldn’t go out, maybe I had to spend too much time in my company, maybe this time was necessary for self-growth.
And I realised that a lot of people - including the past me - is getting self-care wrong. We have distorted concepts about it, we confuse it with different ideas and in general, we simply do it the wrong way.
Maybe, there is a way to practise self-care in an effective way even in this accelerated world, full of distractions, expectations and judgment. Maybe we can find our own ways that aren’t selfish, that aren’t about control, that aren’t counterproductive. Read the article below.
How to Do Self-Care in a Way That Really Serves You
Please, stop advising single people
Another spring is here, another year is gone and I’m still single. Haha. The thing is, I have been dating quite a bit, I had some relationships lasting a few months, I had my heart broken and I think I broke a few hearts (ugh, sorry). I am finally at a point when I believe that being single is a lot better than being in a relationship that doesn’t serve you, add anything to your days or that doesn’t go anywhere. I feel good on my own - but I still qualify as single.
I wrote an article some time ago, about not being single on choice - which I would rewrite stating that I am consciously staying single until I find someone who enriches my life in multiple ways. But… in this same article, I wrote about the most annoying advice single people usually get. And it’s still valid, it’s still true. Whether someone is desperate to find a relationship or they are quite fine on their own, suggesting that someone single should change their mindsets is offensive and careless.
If you ever had a piece of useful advice for a single person, read this article and next time think twice about it. Things You Shouldn’t Tell Your Single Friends
This is all for this week. Hope you enjoyed our coffee/tea together. I surely did. If you want to buy me a virtual coffee, please go ahead and do it: here.
I’m ever so grateful that you are still here, reading me. Happy April, happy spring.
Much love,
Zita
P.S.: oh yeah, and of course stay safe and get vaccinated if you can, don’t forget, it’s a privilege.